SERC Q&A

Question: My sex life is so lame lately. Why isn’t sex as much fun as everyone makes it out to be?

Answer: Our society makes us think that all sex is mind-blowing and amazing. Everywhere we turn someone is trying to sell a product using sex. We see sex on bill boards, in magazines and newspapers, on television and in song lyrics and videos, not to mention the porn sites that pop up at you while you’re surfing the internet. Sex is used to selling everything from breath mints to running shoes. The commercials and movies portray sex as a kind of surreal act that rockets you into ecstasy. With all of this its no wonder we think it should be awesome all the time. The reality is that sex is occasionally, but rarely so thrilling. Sometimes sex is embarrassing, frustrating, and disappointing. Other times it is fun, stimulating, relaxing and satisfying. Take a realistic look at sex. Also, make sure you are having sex with someone you want to have sex with, make sure you are having sex because you want it, and be open enough to communicate your sexual needs to your partner. Also, don’t be afraid to spice things up with something different! Maybe a sexy outfit, some role play, toys, flavored lube, body chocolate, or just a old fashioned bottle of wine. Happy humping!